Sermon Quotes: "A Humble Husband"

“…is not an analytical knowledge or religious insight…but personal insight that leads to loving and considerate care, whether in the bedroom or in other activities of marriage.” Peter Davids

“It is quite a mistaken belief that, because a member of the family works for his living outside the home, he can treat it like a hotel when he comes home, and expect to be waited on.” John Murray

“Many good things do not happen in our lives for simply lack of planning.” John Piper

“We don’t marvel enough at the wonder of our wives.” John Piper

“A principal cause of discouragement is exhaustion. If a mother is doing her job at home with her little ones, she will be far more physically tired than she used to be. What can the husband do?

First, he can help-both through helping with the kids, and also through refraining from acting like an extra kid himself. He should also help by watching the troops so that his wife can get out at least once a week. He should also arrange for a regular babysitter so that he can take her out-she needs a Sabbath.

Second, he should recognize that the kids are placing demands on his wife’s body all day long-they want to nurse, they want to be carried, they want to be held, etc. This means that he should be sensitive to how he approaches her sexually. He must not be just one more voice in the clamor.

Third, he must teach his wife to look for the long-term blessing, both in this life and the next. The most important returns from child-rearing in this life do not come in the first five years. There is necessarily a heavy investment of time and energy when the children are little. But if they are disciplined and grow they will begin to contribute far more to the family than they receive from it. But initially, as newborns and toddlers, children merely contribute to the workload.

 A husband should also encourage his wife by reminding her of the eternal value of the work she is doing. When she and her children have been there ten thousand years, bright shining as the sun, then that apparently eternal pile of laundry will finally come into perspective. A husband should help to provide a glimpse of that perspective now.” Douglas Wilson

“So concerned is God that Christian husbands live in an understanding and loving way with their wives that he ‘interrupts’ his relationship with them when they are not doing so. No Christian husband should presume to think that any spiritual good will be accomplished by his life without an effective ministry of prayer. And no husband may expect an effective prayer life unless he lives with his wife ‘in an understanding way, bestowing honor’ on her. To take the time to develop and maintain a good marriage is God’s will; it is serving God; it is a spiritual activity pleasing in his sight.” Wayne Grudem

“As the closest human relationship, the relationship to one’s spouse must be carefully cherished if one wishes a close relationship with God.” Peter Davids

“Be such a believing husband to your believing wife that she may say, ‘God has not only given me a husband, but such a husband as preaches to me every day the way of Christ to His church.” John Bunyan