How to Lovingly Confront | Re-post from 9Marks
In his sermon yesterday, CJ referred to a 9Marks article entitled How do I lovingly confront someone who claims to be converted but who lives like a non-Christian? See below for the article in its entirety. Prayerfully consider who you might be called to lovingly confront.
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How do I lovingly confront someone who claims to be converted but who lives like a non-Christian?
- Pray for yourself and the other person. Pray that you would be faithful merely to speak truth, relying on God’s Spirit to do the work of true persuasion (1 Cor. 3:6-7; 2 Cor. 7:8-10). Pray that he would convict and change the heart.
- Speak the truth in love (Eph. 4:15). Approach the person tenderly, patiently, and kindly. Explain that you are confronting them out of a deep and loving concern for their eternal good.
- Point them to the Scriptures. Explain that your goal is not to render a final verdict on their souls. Rather, you are concerned they aren’t living like Scripture says a Christian lives. Refer them to passages like Matthew 7:13-29, Romans 6:12-23, 8:13, 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, 2 Corinthians 13:5, and the whole book of 1 John.
- Question them gently. Ask things like, “Do you think your life matches the Bible’s picture of a genuine Christian? Are you genuinely fighting sin or secretly cherishing it? Do you believe that being a Christian means repenting of your sin and trusting in Christ?”
- Remind them of their profession of faith and baptism. Remind them of the gospel.
- Urge them to consider eternity. Remind them that their eternal joy or condemnation is at stake (Ps. 49; Matt. 25:31-46).
This article originally posted at 9Marks.org (link).
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